Monthly Archives: July 2009

Being Transparent in an Opaque World

I just came from seeing my parents and my Uncle and Cousin who were visiting for the weekend.   I showed them my blog and we started discussing Social Media and why I would want to “tell the whole world all my business”.  My father doesn’t understand why I want to “wear my heart on my sleeve”.  “What am I getting out of this?” he asked.  I tried to explain it to them, but they just did not get it.

twitter-birdI wasn’t even trying, but in the 8 months that I have been on Twitter, I have built a personal brand.  I am known for the horrible year I’ve had, my #stinkytweets, my love for Dave Matthews and my humor among other things.  Basically, I am known for being me. And me, I’m a pretty open person, always have been.  Why close to 10,000 people care about what I had for breakfast, or how I am doing after my oral surgery, I don’t know.  But they do.  And I love them for it.  I care about them too.

People ask me, are you worried about identity theft? You put a lot of personal information up on the internet.  To be honest, no. I really don’t have anything to lose.  I’m flat broke.  No one would even be able to get a credit card in my name! Good luck to them! If I wasn’t so open about my life, Save Becky would never have been.  I would have kept my troubles in and this probably would have slowly killed me.  I have gotten so much from the friendships I have made online.  I would never change a thing.  My online presence is what “Saved Becky”. It made me into who I am today.  Am I being transparent? Maybe so.  Should I be? Absolutely.

Top 10 Reasons I Won't Follow You on #Twitter

There are many reasons why I choose to follow people on Twitter.  And there are many more reasons why I won’t.  I used to auto-follow anyone who followed me, and quickly decided to start being more picky, when my stream was filled with tweets from people that commit the following no-nos:

1. You have no avatar: I want to see who I am talking to.  I’m sorry, I just do.  Granted, this might not be you, but I feel better about following avatars other than that ugly brown box.

2. You have a naked avatar: Props to you for uploading an avatar! However, last time I checked, Twitter was not an “Adult Friend Finder”.  They have sites for that.  Go join one and leave us tweeps alone.

3. You have no bio and/or no tweets: You can’t write 160 characters about yourself? Anyone could do that.  And why should I follow you if you aren’t tweeting anything? You really shouldn’t start following people until you actually start using Twitter.  Try it, it’s fun!

4. YOU TWEET IN ALL CAPS: While the caps button is OK to use SOMETIMES, like when you are trying to excentuate a point, it is not OK to use it for EVERYTHING you say.  This is annoying.  No one likes being yelled at. My one exception to the rule is @KirstieAlley.  She is just too fabulous not to follow.

5. You tweet nothing of value: If every tweet you send is trying to sell me something, I am not interested.  I’m sorry, I only follow companies that I like and use or that I think I might need in the future.

6. You tweet me an offer directly: This is not only annoying, but I think it is against Twitter’s Terms of Service.  If you think you can bypass me following you to send me something, I will be using the block button.  Be warned.

7. You make fun of my love for Dave Matthews: While everyone is entitled to their opinion, being obnoxious about it is not going to get you any points with me.  For example, @Rackstar2K pissed me off last week, tweeting not once but 3 times about how stupid I was for being excited to go see DMB in concert.  Needless to say, he is now blocked.

8. You post “Get 10k followers by tomorrow!”: I got my followers the hard way, being a fun, awesome person that people want to talk to.  I care about my followers and they care about me in return.  I cherish the friendships I have made on Twitter and you should too.  It’s not about numbers.  If you are posting these “get followers” tweets automatically and can’t figure out why, you may want to change your password.  Those “Get Followers” sites hijack your account and I bet you are losing more followers than you are gaining.

9. You are a fake celebrity: Do you really think I will believe that you are Leonardo DiCaprio because your name is @LeoDicaprio42? Would Leonardo be following 1,000 people and only have 50 followers?  Maybe you can fake out those other tweeps, but not me.  My one exception is @Larry_David, whose authenticity is in question.  @JGarlin says that it is not him, but how do we know if @JGarlin is really Jeff Garlin and not some 13 year old? *sigh*

10. You lock your updates: Unless you are a celebrity, I think there is no reason to lock your updates.  This pretty much goes against everything Twitter stands for.  If you don’t want the whole world to know what you are doing, maybe Twitter isn’t for you.  If I have to get your permission to see what you are doing, I’m really not that interested.

So there you have it.  My Top 10 reasons why I won’t follow you. While I do make exceptions to the rules, I try to stick to these as much as possible.  They just make Twitter a better place, for me at least. Happy tweeting!

The Best Wedding Entrance EVER

Two fabulous nights at Jones Beach with DMB

Walking in DMB Jones Beach 7/21/09

Night One: Tuesday, 7/21/09

It rained all day and I was starting to get nervous that I would see DMB for the second time in 2 months in the pouring rain.  I drove in with my friend, Louise (@LovelyLu) and her son.  Despite the rain, the tailgating was in full swing when we arrived.  We parked in the back corner of the lot and started to make the walk over. I took a picture…the clouds were looming.  I had the poncho ready. I had bought a single ticket so me and Lu went our separate ways when we got in.  My friends were in the VIP parking lot, but I unfortunately didn’t find out they were there until I was inside.  Unless I hopped a large planter next to the fence in front of 10 security guards, I wasn’t getting into the VIP lot.

VIP DMB Jones Beach 7/21/09So, I stood in front of the VIP area and stared inside and wished I could be in there.  The wonderful and completely unfair thing about the VIP section at Jones Beach is that you can DRINK.  The tickets are about $20 extra and you have to pay $12 for a bottle of beer and $15 for a glass of wine, but you can still drink.  You only get offered a chance to buy VIP tickets if you purchase orchestra tickets or have season tickets.  What about the 10,000 other people in the theater that would like a beer? Just messed up. I saw a few other friends and then decided to stop dreaming of VIP and go find my seat.  On the way in, I stopped and I bought a bottle of water. $6. I asked the girl if she felt bad charging people that.  How does she sleep at night? I know it’s not her fault, but $6 for a bottle of Dasani water is a little ridiculous, don’t you think? I can understand the beer for $12.  That’s beer.  This is WATER.  A life necessity.

Funny the way it is DMB Jones Beach 7/21/09My seat wasn’t horrible.  I was in section 13L row K on the aisle.  The people around me were a little annoying.  The two seats next to me were empty and 2 girls came up before the band started and asked if they could sit there.  I told them I didn’t care, so they took their towels and wiped the seats dry. Then, they asked me to watch “their seats” while they went to get food.  They weren’t even their seats!! 2 songs later, they didn’t come back yet but another 2 girls show up, surprise! At least the seats were dry! Directly across the aisle from me were a group of what looked to be high school students that took up the first 6 seats of 2 rows.  They were completely drunk (from the parking lot, I guess) and by 9pm, one of the guys had passed out.  They continued to use his arms like a puppet and take funny pictures with him.  It reminded me of that anti-drug commercial: “If you aren’t in control, who is?” The people next to me took pictures of him too.  I was just taking pictures of Dave.  I suppose this blog post would be a lot better had I had a photo of him. Sorry, but it was pretty funny.

guitar DMB 7/21/09

DMB 7/21/09Here is the set listDMB 7/21/09 night 1:

Nikon at Jones Beach Theater, 7/21/09

Funny The Way It Is *
You Might Die Trying *
Seven *
Everyday *
Squirm *
Dreaming Tree *
Lying In the Hands of God *
Burning Down The House *
Where Are You Going
Spaceman *
Corn Bread *
Shake Me Like a Monkey *
Louisiana Bayou *
#41 *
Don’t Drink the Water *
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(#40) +
Rye Whiskey +
All Along The Watchtower *

Show Notes:
* Jeff Coffin
+ Dave Solo

(song name) indicates a partial song
indicates a segue into next song

Overall, the mood of the show on night one was mellow.  I was very happy with the setlist.  Song highlights for me were Cornbread (such a great song), #41, Burning Down the House and a solo acoustic Rye Whiskey by Dave.  My friend Sue sat second row and the cameraman gave her the setlist he had.  She said Tripping Billies was on there, but they didn’t play it.  My friend Carissa was in the Orchestra and caught a stick from Carter.  She said there was a little fight about it with all the people around.   Sue was also telling me that someone was in the third row heckling Dave and he had him thrown out.  Seriously, why would someone get 3rd row if they hate DMB?

Night 2Night Two: Wednesday, 7/22/09

Night two started off much better.  It stopped raining. I drove with my friend Brandy and we met up with friends from high school (who I haven’t seen SINCE high school) and my friend Carissa and her husband Dave.  We met up in the parking lot and tailgated for a few hours.  The mood in the parking lot was great. Again, I had a single ticket and the seat was a little better then the first night.  This time, I had brought a sealed water bottle from home.  Every person is allowed to bring one bottle and I’ll be damned if I give Jones Beach another $6. I met two cool guys whose seats were in nosebleed, but they snuck down into my seat.  One had been to 25 shows, so it was nice to be next to someone who actually knows the music. Check out the setlist from night two:

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Nikon at Jones Beach Theater, 7/22/09

Pantala Naga Pampa *
Rapunzel *
One Sweet World *
Seek Up *
Why I Am *
Grey Street *
Dive In *
Dancing Nancies *
Crash (Into Me) *
Alligator Pie *
Jimi Thing *
Gravedigger
Funny The Way It Is *
Shake Me Like a Monkey *
You and Me *
Time Bomb *
Two Step *

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Sister +
Anyone Seen The Bridge *
Too Much (Fake) *
Tripping Billies *

Show Notes:
* Jeff Coffin
+ Dave, Carter Rashawn and Tim

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I felt like I was thrown back to my first show in 1998 again.  The first three songs blew me away.  I knew we were in for a good show.  Then they played my two favorite songs Two Step and Dancing Nancies.  The Too Much tease in the encore was a bummer, but I was really happy to hear Tripping Billies.  I had the inside info from Sue, so I was hoping they would play it.

Dave was very chatty both nights.  He said “its been awhile since we’ve been here…it still smells funky,” (Which is really funny, but true).  Jimi Thing was AWESOME.  The first 2 verses were sung by just the audience while Dave just stood there danced all cute.  Towards the end of the song (about a 15 minute version) the whole group started singing “sexy motherfuckers shaking that ass…shaking that ass…shaking that ass.” At first I didn’t hear it, but the whole audience was cracking up. I really love their new album and didn’t mind the new songs at all.  If anything, I like the new songs better hearing them all live.  Tim Reynolds and Jeff Coffin were incredible, as always.  Jeff had some pretty big shoes to fill and I think that LeRoi is up there jamming and proud of his replacement.

Annoying lesbians DMB Jones Beach 7/22/09The second half of the second night the boys next to me were greated by 2 girls who also squeezed in.  I felt like I had let someone cut-in front of me in a parking lot and then let all the other cars go.  I hate when people take advantage of your kindness.  The two ladies, who turned out to be lesbians were in my personal space dancing while making out and falling over into me.  I snapped a picture, just to show you.  Yes, they were literally ON TOP of me.

So, it’s all over.  I figure the next show I will see might be over the winter…it’s going to be a long 6 months.  Thank you Dave, Stefan, Boyd, Carter, Tim and Jeff for a fantastic two nights.  Jones Beach is really the best concert venue and it’s been 12 years since you’ve played there.  Please come again, let’s not make it another 12 years.

Dave Matthews Band at Jones Beach….the Countdown Begins!

We are T minus 20 hours till two nights of DMB at Jones Beach.  Although the forecast says rain both days, I am still very excited.  A little rain is not going to stop me from seeing my favorite band at my favorite concert venue.  I slept out in the rain on the streets of NYC for them, I will stand in my poncho at the beach too:)

I started watching concert footage from 2009 earlier on YouTube.  I found some good videos, so I thought I’d share.  Consider this my dream mini-setlist for Jones Beach:

Funny The Way It Is (MSG 4.14.09)

Two Step  (Las Vegas 5.08.09)
Alligator Pie (Saratoga Springs, 6.13.09)
Pig (MSG 4.14.09)

“Shake Me Like a Monkey” (Amsterdam 7.7.09)

Crush (Fenway, 5.30.09)
Ants Marching (New Orleans, 5.09)
Why I Am (New Orleans, 5.09)
Goodnight all! Cheers to a wonderful 48 hours ahead.

Eat, drink and be merry!

Poetry from the 11th grade

I recently found a folder with a bunch of poems that I wrote while I was taking a Writing: Fiction and Poetry class at Ward Melville High School.  I was in 11th grade, 14 years ago.  My teacher was Mr. Biggers.  Here are 3 for your reading enjoyment.

Here is the first one.  The assignment was write an eight-line, two stanza poem using the first line: “I wander lonely as a fly.”

5/17/95

I wander lonely as a fly,

watching all my friends fly by.

I’m so lonely, I think I’ll cry

My biggest fear, a swatter – I don’t want to die!


I see trees and grass and oh my-

the biggest swatter – I’m gonna die!

Maybe I’ll get away, I’ll sure try.

The troubles of a lonely fly.

Not bad. This next one is weird.  There is no assignment attached, so I don’t know if I was supposed to talk about Hydrochloric Acid?

5/17/95

Nothing was the same now that it was different.

Up is like down when you are standing on your head.

If I should wake before I die, I’ll go back to sleep.

Puffy clouds in your wine are the result of too many drinks.


Canceled checks in the abandoned boat seemed…wet.

The solution was hydrochloric acid; the problem was therefore, eating me up.

Love is to open sky as loathing is to hell.

“No, no, a thousand times no,” he said, counting his fingers.

I have no words. I seriously would like some of whatever I was smoking when I wrote that. And that brings me to the last poem:

Sonnet

5/24/95

You may not know it, but I still watch you

I follow you – see every move you make

I watch you with her

It used to be me in your arms

You were my life

You made me feel beautiful

Now I feel used

I love you, I hate you

I’m not sure how I feel about anything

Not since you’ve changed

You’re not the person you were

Now there is no purpose in your life

I miss you, the old you – I loved you

But now, I really hate you.

I think I might have been a stalker when I was 16.  This is a little scary LOL. I don’t remember writing any of these either.  Reading them now, I wonder how all of them got an A?  Maybe the teacher was just being nice? Thanks Mr. Biggers:)

Long time, no blog.

I just realized that my last post on here was in JUNE.  I blame Twitter for my absence of blogs.  I’m always posting little tidbits on there and don’t have anything to write a whole post about.  I also need to finish the “about” page on here.  I find it very difficult to write a summary about me for these types of things.  Does anyone else have that problem?

I was visiting my parents house last night and I found a box of old assignments from my 10th grade “Creative Writing: Poetry and Fiction” class.   I may have to post some later for your enjoyment, they are quite amusing.  That is, when I find them again in the 8 bags of crap that I collected at the house. It’s amazing how much stuff you accumulate through the years.  The bags are still in my car and I’ve been procrastinating carrying them in all day.  For one, it’s really hot out and I’d rather hang out in the A/C, and secondly, where on earth am I to put these 8 bags? My apartment is a bit on the small side.  This should be interesting.

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